“The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are.” -Joseph Campbell
What a beautiful, simple message. Be who you are.
There are so many external pressures that keep us from being who we are. For that reason, I want to remove as many of my internal barriers as possible. These are two areas in which I am consciously making an effort.
The Right to Take Up Space
In my never-ending, self assigned pursuit of not being a burden or bother, I am always seeking ways to not take up space. This “space” may be actual physical space; not taking up too much cabinet or fridge space in our shared house. Or it could be not taking too much of the focus during a conversation, refraining from stating my preferences or asking favors of others. This stems from my false belief that people like me because I don’t demand too much of them. Therefore, I am giving myself the right to take up space. In doing so I hope I can change my thinking. That I will believe “I am worthy of space.”
The Right to Be Free
Most of my life, I have thought that there is a right way and a wrong way. And that I am often doing it the wrong way. This may come from growing up around religion or my tendency towards imposter syndrome. I rarely question if others are doing it right, but always question myself. For example, that there is a right thing to say in every situation or a right way to grieve. That there is a right set of beliefs to have or a right way to write. This wondering about “am I doing right?” is stealing so much from each of those moments. In my mind, my very belonging hinges upon if I am doing things right. I am starting to believe that there is no right way, but a multitude of good ways. I am giving myself the right to be free; to do, think, feel, or say without constantly worrying if it’s right. And believing that within this freedom, I will still find belonging.